A Young Girl’s Struggle

I would like to share a story of young girl who was a victim of bullying for the most part of her young life. She was experiencing a wonderful life in her father’s country until she came back to her mother’s hometown.  The first two years were fine although she had to adjust to a different culture.  It started when she was always getting excellent scores and winning all the contests, be they academic or extra-curricular.  She also represented her school in various competitions like math and spelling contests. With all her triumphs and successes, came the jealousies. Her classmates started accusing her of so many things. They called her names. She never understood why they bullied her. She knew in her heart that if they wanted to achieve what she was getting, they should study hard like her.  But they distract her instead. Their school counselor advised her to ignore them. And she explained to her that she was the target of these jealous eyes because these girls envied her beauty and brains personality.  Also, she was the quiet type that’s why she was an easy prey. She was deeply affected, yet she remained genuine and she tried to muster up all the courage she could get. But she was young, and no matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t be strong. She relied on people who loved her for strength. But the bullying greatly affected her emotionally, socially and psychologically. She started losing a lot of hair, and bruises started coming out all over her body.  She was hurting. She then underwent series of tests, and the doctors found out that it was all due to stress. She was eight years old then. The most unforgettable moment for her was when her mother asked her “When will I see you smile again?”  She was heartbroken and was totally down.  With the support and the love of her family, relatives and friends, she was able to face her detractors. With God on her side, she bravely confronted those jealous eyes with evil minds.

She is 16 years old now. A  2nd year BS Economics student at the University of the Philippines  Diliman.  The girl from the story is me.

Bullying is a topic that is very close to my heart, for I was a victim of it. I am lucky and blessed to have overcome the trauma. However, my heart still breaks for the hundreds of thousands of people around the world who still experience the intimidation and harassment from these envious monsters. Hopefully with the law that was recently passed and signed by Pres. Noynoy Aquino, these green-eyed, spiteful comments and actions will finally come to an end.

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15 thoughts on “A Young Girl’s Struggle

  1. I appreciate the honesty you’ve put into this piece of work. And just like you, I am also against bullying because of the permanent effects it can cause on its victims. I am adamantly against those who find it so easy to hide in anonymity and bully people online. The government should do something to limit that at the very least.

  2. I admire how you shared this to everyone who will be reading this blog. You are a strong girl with a big heart. True enough, God will always be with you every step of the way and no matter how many people try to put you down, He will help you rise up again. 🙂

  3. You are a strong woman, strong inside and outside. Continue to overcome all the challenges that God will give you because I know that you can survive no matter what happens. 🙂

  4. I totally admire you for overcoming bullying and even mustering up the courage to share your story!
    I, too, am against bullying. Being true to one’s self is very difficult when a lot of people constantly pulls you down. I am with you in hopes that bullying would have no place in this society.

  5. I appreciate how honest you were with this post, it takes a lot of courage to talk about something as personal as this. You are amazing for being able to get over what you did, and I wish you luck with everything you have going for you, don’t let anyone bring you down again 🙂 I could relate to your story and am also against bullying just as much as you are. The effects of bullying nowadays are heartbreaking and even more severe than ever, sometimes leading to suicide. I hope this does stop now that the law against bullying has been passed.

  6. As what others have said, I really appreciate how open you are with talking about this. It’s great to get to hear your experiences, and it’s even more resonating for all of us because we know you personally. I do hope more can be done about bullying in schools, because it can be a very hard to fight. But I must say I admire how strong you’ve been, and how you have been able to rise about those bad experiences.

  7. It is so brave of you to open up such personal topic and I admire you for overcoming it. It is so sad that bullying has found a new platform: the social media. I hope that our government, or even just our community or school address this sensitive issue.

  8. From someone who has a close friend who was also bullied during her grade school years, I have witnessed the pain and trauma a person has to survive on a daily basis. Indeed, it is very difficult to recover from such a horrible experience, much more tell people about it. And I greatly commend you for that, you are a strong woman. I am also with you against bullying; I hope no one, ever, has to deal with bullies again.

  9. Sharing and posting here your story is really courageous, and I salute you for that! Bullying makes someone physically and emotionally troubled. Though the first one can be cured by medicine, the latter isn’t. It inflicts lasting pain, and I am happy that you were able to get rid of it. The support you got from your family and loved ones were really of great help. And I hope that the Anti-Bullying Bill would keep a lot of children from being bullied and experiencing such pains.

  10. I found your post really moving, and it’s really strong of you to speak about it so openly 🙂 just to add to what everyone else has mentioned, I think that the reason it happens is because people — not just kids — don’t know that they’re bullies, and yet they grow up preaching that bullies are bad. It just goes to show that these kinds of things boil down to values, which can be attributed to a good educational system that holistically integrates both academics and civil responsibilities, and this system, of course, should be accessible to all.

  11. Thank you so much for sharing your story here with us. It took a large amount of courage and I’m honored to have read about your struggle. I think that in a school setting wherein there are hierarchical ladders, bullying becomes more rampant because of the perceived inequalities. I think it stems from either an abuse of power, or as your article said, strong insecurities. I don’t know if we’ll ever be able to fully eradicate bullying but I do hope that the victims of it can be given the proper help and support that they need. Kudos to you for this moving article!

  12. Wow! So glad you were able to overcome the trauma. Bullying is truly a big issue. May your story inspire others (well, not to bully, but to have the courage to stand against bullying). Thanks for sharing your story!! 🙂

  13. After reading this, I realize and see reasons as to why you appear as a shy and quiet person. At the same time, it’s nice to see that in school you are smiling, sharing jokes, socializing and hanging out with friends :D. Thanks for sharing and I know that you can be an inspiration not only to victims of bullying but of any sort of oppression, and challenges in life.

  14. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. It happens everyday, people are so used to it that we fail to give attention to the issue. Most people have no idea of their actions’ consequences so may this be an eye-opener to everyone that bullying, even the mildest types, can affect people severely. Bullying should not be tolerated.

  15. This is another proof that bullying happens to a wide variety of people, who would have thought that someone like you was a victim of bullying. A lot of people sometimes don’t realize that are already being bullies, they sometimes think that small actions can’t do damage, but they are wrong, sometimes the smallest of actions cause the biggest of consequences. Thank you for sharing a personal thing, and stay strong and empowered. 😀

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